I don’t want to lose weight.
For the past year I have been on a serious roller coaster when it comes to my body. I gave birth to beautiful baby boy. I’ve lost weight and gained some back. I’ve had periods of not exercising at all, and then I would exercise so hard that I now have multiple injuries as a result. This whole year I have had so many moments of hating my body. Why was it so hard for me to get back in shape? I found every excuse, and they were all legitimate. I blamed genetics, I blamed myself for not breastfeeding enough, I blamed pain, I blamed my low testosterone levels, I blamed sleep deprivation. You name it, I blamed it.
While I was blaming my body for everything. I treated my body as if I was punishing it. It wasn’t until very recently that I realized that hating my body was the thing that was holding me back from losing weight. I took a deep look at myself and realized how much my body has done for me. Really, my body is amazing. It gave me Jack. Yes, my body is hurting, and yes, I have some scars. But instead of punishing my body, I need to reward it. The pain and scars are not results of my body failing me. Quite the opposite. They are reminders that my body has fought… and WON. My body is a result of all this life has thrown at me. My body has created a child, and then helped him into the world. So why have I been hell-bent on blaming my body for what I saw as failures? It’s like blaming a soldier for coming home with battle-scars.
It’s been an eye-opening experience to change my perspective. It’s only now that I’m realizing that instead of punishing my body, I need to love my body. To heal it. To restore it. I now understand that health comes from loving my body, not hating it.
Why do we put such an emphasis on weight? I think it’s easy for us to fixate on that as a goal because it is a number. It’s quantifiable. It’s much easier to say “I want to be 130 pounds” than “I want to just feel good about myself.” It’s much easier to reach a goal that can be represented by a number, than by an idea, even if that idea is so much more important in the long run.
A few years ago, I lost a lot of weight. I was thinner than I had been in a long time. I worked by butt off, working out over an hour a day and eating great. I was 150 pounds, but I felt amazing and looked great.
One night I went to the ER because of chest pain. I was in the waiting room for a really long time, just waiting there, hurting while I tried to breathe, and one of the nurses comes over to me and gets my vitals and asks for my height and weight. I tell him I weight 150 pounds and the guy’s jaw literally drops and responds with an incredulous “Really?!” It was so rude and one of the most embarrassing moments of my life. Here I was, in a waiting room filled with people, and this nurse is questioning my weight. I don’t know if he was just surprised by my weight because I looked lighter than 150, or he was just surprised I weighed so much, but either way… it was a kick in the gut. (BTW, my chest pain wasn’t anything serious).
After that, I was very self-conscious. I was ashamed of my weight, even though I felt great about it before. I had worked so hard to get to where I was, and because of someone’s judgement, I questioned my confidence.
There is something wrong with how we view health. Weight is not an indication of health. We hear this all the time, and to be honest, it always annoyed me. “Well okay, but that doesn’t help me feel better about my love handles.” But the more I focus on my health, the more I realize that health, not size or weight, is what leads to confidence.
I’m not saying this is going to be a turning point for me, though I hope it is. I’ll still get frustrated and I’ll still struggle. But I think acknowledging the flaw in my approach to weight loss is a good start.
As I was talking to my counselor yesterday, she told me that even calling it “losing weight” could be holding me back. By saying we’re “losing” weight, it’s like we’re letting go of something we don’t want to. We won’t lose something we still want. She said I should focus on calling it “restoring” my body. It takes the focus off of “losing” something, and puts it on what’s important… restoring strength and health.
So I’m not gonna lose weight. I’m going to restore my body.
I was on a walk with my dog and my son the other day. I was pushing Jack’s stroller down this street when I see a man at the end of the road, just standing there smoking. So I make the decision to turn around and go down a different street. When I did this, I stopped and thought “Why am I doing this?” It was the late morning, so it wasn’t dark out and we were surrounded by houses filled with people. We were also in a good neighborhood… so why did I turn around? Am I really that much of a chicken that I can’t walk past a man when I’m alone? He didn’t give me any indication that I should be concerned for my safety. As I was thinking about it, I honestly felt a little ashamed and frankly, a little embarrassed.
This isn’t the first time something like this has happened. I try to avoid men all the time. And I’m obviously not talking about men I know and trust. But if I’m walking alone, especially outside or downtown, I try to avoid being alone with strange men. Looking back, I’ve basically done this as long as I can remember. But why? Is it stranger danger? But yet, I have no problem approaching strange women or children. Honestly, I have always been scared of men.
It wasn’t until recently that I realized this is not just a me thing. This wasn’t just me being paranoid or scared. This is pretty common among women. Why? Well, honestly, I think it’s become an evolutionary response to years and years of sexual harassment. Since even before having a good set of boobs, we have learned to fear men. I remember being so young and being catcalled by men everywhere. Whether I was walking past a construction site or just walking past older boys at school. I remember one time in middle school, I was walking alone in a hallway when two boys saw me, shouted “SKIRT!” and ran over to me. They tried to box me into a corner and tried to grab me. But before they could get to me, people started coming out of class so they backed off and I got away. I remember being so humiliated and scared. And then, I felt embarrassed that I felt embarrassed. I was a mess.
This is just one example from my childhood where men have made me feel uncomfortable and I can confidently look back at the experience and call it sexual harassment. So when I saw the first “me too” on Facebook, I reflected on my past and was shocked by how much sexual harassment I’ve experienced. And what’s sad is that I hadn’t even considered it to be sexual harassment until now. Before #metoo, I just considered it #beingawoman. Because sexual harassment IS the norm for women. And that’s why #metoo is so important. Just by saying “me too,” we acknowledge a common struggle, and that’s the first step to righting decades of wrong.
There are those who don’t consider this a problem. And there are those who believe this is just women being too sensitive. The new wave of sexual harassment allegations throughout Hollywood has proven that there is a real problem. However, Hollywood won’t solve the problem. Yes, it’s getting us talking, but the world isn’t Hollywood. Sexual harassment is about all women. It’s not just about actresses. It’s not just about actors or prominent businessmen. It’s about everyday women and everyday men. And there are men whose actions will never be brought out of the darkness.
I want to clarify that this post is not meant to demonize men. My life has been surrounded by good men who I trust and love more than anything. There are good men just as there are also really bad women. Men and women need each other. And just as we need women to have the courage to stand up against harassment, we need these good men to stand up with us. And for those of you men who don’t think this is your fight, think about the women you love. Think about your mother, your wife, your daughter, your best friend. Chances are every single one of them have been sexually harassed at least once. Sexual harassment is everyone’s problem.
Because no woman should be afraid to walk next to a man.
Because no woman should be afraid to wear a skirt.
Because no woman should have to carry a weapon in their purse.
Because no woman should have to fear being alone.
Because no woman should be treated like an object.
Because no woman should have to be catcalled while walking to work.
Because no woman should have to take self-defense classes.
Because no woman should be told to stay silent.
Because no woman should have to say “me too.”
I’m not lying when I tell you this is the best toffee I have ever had. My mom makes SO many batches of it each year for Christmas and it has people raving. The best thing about this recipe is how simple it is. It requires only four ingredients.
Trust me, you are not going to want to put this stuff down. You won’t be able to have just one piece.
I will provide a few pictures to give you an idea of what the toffee should look like, because it can be a bit tricky to know when it’s ready! Sorry in advance for the crappy pictures of my phone. I couldn’t exactly get out my good camera and take a decent photo when the toffee is time sensitive.
1 cup of butter (2 cubes)
1 cup of sugar
1. Cover a cookie sheet with aluminum foil. Spread a layer of chopped or sliced almonds onto the tin foil and set aside.
2. In a medium sauce pan, heat the cubes of butter and sugar on medium-high heat.
3. Stir continuously as the butter melts completely and turns to toffee. You will need to monitor the color and consistency. It will be completely yellow when just melted, then the mixture will begin to froth and start turning into a caramel color.
4. Continue to stir until the mixture is a darker caramel color. But it’s important that the mixture doesn’t burn. Once you start smelling it burn, you’re done.
5. Quickly pour the toffee mixture evenly over the almonds. Make sure to cover most of the almonds because you won’t be able to spread the toffee around.
8. Put the pan into the fridge (or freezer) to set the toffee.
9. Once completely cooled, break apart the toffee with your hands into smaller pieces.
I have tried tons of Fettuccine Alfredo recipes, including ones full of cream and cheese and gooey unhealthiness. And though they were delicious, after even a small portion, I felt totally sick. Bloated and heavy. So I went on the search for a lighter recipe that was still creamy and delicious. And I found one from my favorite food blogger, Gimme Some Oven! (Follow the link to see her original recipe).
This lighter Fettuccine Alfredo recipe is the perfect option when you want to eat a little healthier but aren’t quite ready to give up the carbs. Also, you should always be eating carbs. If anyone tells you otherwise, they are not your friend.
This recipe proves that you can eat lighter without sacrificing flavor. This creamy pasta is perfect for those cold fall nights.
Here’s how it’s done.
12 oz Fettuccine
1 Tbsp butter or olive oil
4 cloves garlic (minced)
3 Tbsp all-purpose flour
1 cup chicken stock
1 cup milk
1 cup grated Parmesan cheese
1/2 tsp kosher salt
(Optional) parsley and/or extra Parmesan for topping
1. Cook the pasta al dente.
2. Meanwhile, in a medium saucepan, heat the oil or butter on medium-high heat. When hot or melted, add the garlic and cook (stirring occasionally) until fragrant. Add the flour and mix until all the flour is completely absorbed.
3. Add the chicken stock. Whisk briskly until the mixture is no longer lumpy. Once the sauce is smooth, slowly add in the milk and whisk to combine. Bring the sauce to a simmer to thicken.
4. Add the Parmesan, salt and pepper. Stir until thick and the cheese is melted. Put on medium-low until pasta is cooked.
5. Once pasta is done, drain and return to pan. Add the sauce to the pasta and stir until pasta is well covered.
6. Serve immediately. Top with fresh parsley or extra cheese.
Well there you go! I promise your taste buds will thank you! What other kind of recipes would you like to see more of on the blog? Comment below!
Also, I won’t be posting until after Thanksgiving, so…. HAPPY THANKSGIVING. Where stretchy pants.
I have done a review of BBG (Bikini Body Guide) before, except I focused on comparing it to some Beachbody programs. This time around, I wanted to focus on just BBG. I have gotten so many people come to me and ask me to tell them a little bit about BBG–what it is, what it’s like, and if it’s worth doing. I post progress pictures on my instagram and I have been doing BBG for 2 years. So, I’m a pretty good source of knowledge when it comes to Kayla Itsines’ Bikini Body Guide. So I thought I would give a little overview of the program and tell you about my experience with it.
Before BBG I really struggled finding a workout that I loved. My exercise regime was 30 minutes on an elliptical, barely breaking a sweat, and roaming around the gym trying every machine that didn’t look too complicated. I wasn’t dedicated to anything and felt no fire with anything I had tried before. Then I came across Kayla’s instagram and got sucked in to one of the most inspiring online fitness communities I’d ever seen. Seeing all those transformations brought me the fire I was looking for.
So here’s a little rundown of the program. Now keep in mind that I have actually not tried the app. Since I started BBG before it was cool, I got the ebooks for both BBG 1.0 and 2.0. I got them printed out and bound into booklets. So honestly, I don’t know much about the app, but the workouts are the same.
BBG focuses on strength training circuits and each circuit is focused on a different part of the body. For example, Monday is focused on legs, Wednesday on arms, etc. Each week consists of three, 28 min. circuit workouts and three cardio days. MWF are for circuit training, and for every TTHS, you get to choose your own 35-45 min LISS workout (or 10 min. HIIT).
So, this is an example of a BBG week:
Monday- 28 min leg circuit
Tuesday- 40 min jog
Wednesday- 28 min arm circuit
Thursday- 35 min walk outside
Friday- 28 min ab circuit
Saturday- 10 min sprint intervals
Sunday- Rest day!
And here is a rundown of what the circuits are like:
Each circuit consists of two 7 min circuits (repeated twice). Each 7 minute circuit contains 4 exercises. So, you set your timer for 7 minutes and do circuit one. Even if you finish the exercises, you want to keep working out for the full 7 minutes. Just repeat the circuit again if you finish before 7 minutes. After you take a 30 second break, you will start on circuit two. 30 second break, circuit one again. 30 break, circuit two again. Overall, this should take you around 28 minutes. If that made no sense to you, check the example below:
Kayla has several different programs. Each is 12 weeks long. BBG 1.0 is weeks 1-12, and BBG 2.0 is weeks 13-24. I believe there is also a 3.0 and a few other programs now available on the app, but I don’t know as much about them.
I have completed BBG 1.0 and 2.0 three times each. So I’ve done about 120 weeks of BBG. Here is what I think of the program….
Well, 120 weeks kind of prove that I LOVE it. It is challenging enough to really test your strength but not too challenging so you burn out quickly. They’re short workouts that you can easily do at home so it’s super convenient, especially for stay at home moms who don’t want to take their kids to the gym.
I also love that the workouts progress in difficulty. Every 4 weeks, the circuits get a little more difficult, so you can really build up your strength in a healthy way. Week 1 is difficult enough to challenge exercise veterans, but not too difficult that it excludes exercise novices.
Here are some questions I’m frequently asked:
Do you do BBG exclusively?
It depends. Sometimes I like to pair it with a Beachbody program. Sometimes I focus solely on BBG. But doing BBG alone is effective enough to give you results without doing anything else.
What kind of results did you see?
Since I have done 120 weeks of BBG, but I’ve taken breaks (because of pregnancy or other reasons), I don’t have just one transformation. Also, my results have varied depending on how well I eat. I would say the first 12 weeks I did BBG as the most effective for me. I lost several inches overall and lost 15 pounds. I think this is because I was so motivated and dedicated that I never missed a workout and ate extremely well. Here is a picture of that BBG period.
Yes, I know this is only 8 weeks, but it’s a good example.
I lost 15 pounds that first 3 months. I felt SO wonderful by the end of those 12 weeks. I was full of confidence and energy. It was worth every drop of sweat.
But since life is hard and stuff happens, I did end up gaining weight later on and then getting pregnant. So my transformation looks way different after pregnancy. But overall, you can get some seriously good results if you are dedicated!
This is the last 12 weeks. Obviously, I had a very different starting point because I am postpartum.
Have you tried the nutrition guides?
No. Kayla sells a food guide on her website and also provides food and lifestyle tips on her SWEAT app. I have never followed them. Yes I have used some of her recipes, but I have seen success by just using my food plan. Honestly, if you have a good diet and good nutritional know-how, you don’t need her guide.
However, you cannot expect great results unless you eat well. There have been times when I’ve done a round of BBG and barely saw any results in my physique because my diet was garbage. Nutrition is key.
Are there any things you dislike about BBG?
Yes. Burpees and commandos. They are the bane of my existence. But I mean, they’re amazing exercises so this is more of a drag than anything.
Honestly, it’s a great program. I have very few complaints. However there is one worth mentioning. Some of the workouts can be very hard on your body. A lot of the exercises are high impact and can be pretty hard on your joints if you’re not careful. Things like box jumps and jump lunges are hard on your knees. So, if you’re like me and have crappy joints, you have to be extra careful when doing these types of exercises. Make sure your form is spot on (especially with those lunges and squats) so you don’t put too much strain on your knees. You can also modify your exercises if you have bad joints.
I hope that helps all those who are curious! In a short conclusion, I highly recommend BBG.
Being a new mom is hard as hell. And those who try and tell you otherwise either never experienced it, or simply forgot. For me, the first three months of Jack’s life were so difficult. Yes, they were also beautiful, but they also turned me into a low-grade psychopath. While I was in the thick of it all, I received so much love and support from people I love. I am so grateful for that. But with all the love I received, there were also those not-so-loving comments that left me either scratching my head, wondering why someone would say something like that, or left me on the verge of tears. So I thought I’d do a little PSA-type blog post about things you maybe shouldn’t say to a new mom. Because I think it’s important. But I should also say that this is totally opinion-based. So something that may upset one mom may not upset another. But I think it’s good to just be safe.
“It just gets harder.”
Talk about unhelpful. Some people think they’re being comforting by saying that this stage of parenthood is not as hard as others, but while you might think this is comforting, it’s absolutely not. Even if you’re right, you want to offer hope to the new mom. You never know what exactly she’s going through. Especially if she’s experiencing postpartum depression or anxiety, she will need support and hope that things will get better, not worse.
Instead, maybe say something like, “It just gets better.” Because even though things may get harder, it’s bound to get easier for the mother to handle because she will be stronger and healthier.
“Every woman has done it.”
This is another phrase that may seem comforting, but can actually be pretty discouraging. Someone once told me, in an attempt to make me feel better, that women have been having babies since the beginning of time, so I should be able to handle it, no problem. It comes naturally to women. And if they can do it, I can do it. Instead of making me feel better, this just kind of made me a little discouraged. It made me feel like I was the first woman in history to struggle with something I should naturally be good at. This may also make a mother feel like her struggles are being downplayed. By telling someone that they’re dealing with something so universal might make them think they don’t have the right to struggle, or that the struggle really isn’t that tough.
Instead, maybe say something like, “What you’re doing is hard.” Leave others out of it. Mothers compare ourselves enough, we don’t need you to help us with that.
“I did my time.”
I can’t even begin to count how many times I was told this by someone who had older kids. I have been told that I won’t get any sympathy for being sleep deprived or miserable because they “did their time” and went through it. So, naturally, they don’t need to have sympathy for me. Cause they already went through it. Ironically, most of the people who have said this to me are men.
Instead, say something comforting and positive. Even if you don’t feel bad for them, just be comforting. And if you are so confident you went through something just as difficult, then you should know how hard it is. And you should know how much a comforting word or thoughtful gesture could mean to them.
“You shouldn’t be in this much pain.”
Ok, this one was one my nurse told me. The second night after giving birth, I was in SO much pain. I literally dreaded having to get up and go to the bathroom because it was such a painful ordeal. That night I just broke down in tears. And when my nurse came to check on me, she literally said. “You only had a 2nd degree tear, you shouldn’t be in this much pain.” Uh, not helpful… because, well, I am in this much pain. Then, I felt totally embarrassed by how much I was hurting. I was going off of maybe 3 hours of sleep in 2 days, so my body wasn’t healing the way it should. So, please, for your own sake, don’t underestimate or downplay how much pain a mother is in. I thought this was common sense, but apparently it’s not.
Instead, say something like, “How can I help you feel better?” Let her know you care.
“You’ll never sleep again.”
One of the worst things you could say to someone who is sleep-deprived is that they will never sleep again. Yes, she knows that she won’t be getting sleep any time soon. But reminding her of that is tactless and rather unhelpful. Sleep deprivation is NO JOKE. It’s awful.
So, instead of reminding your friend that she may not sleep again, offer her comfort. Or, even better, offer to watch her baby so she can take a nap.
Well, there you have it. When you were a new mom, what kind of comments annoyed you? If you have something to add, please let me know in the comments. Cause at this point, it is a little amusing.
Fall is not the easiest time of the year to eat healthy… actually, it’s almost impossible. I’m constantly stuck somewhere between wanting to look good and “treat yourself” cause it’s the holidays. So, rather than completely deprive myself, I try and find ways to eat those delicious holiday sweets without over-indulging.
Chocolate and pumpkin is one of my favorite flavor combos. Pumpkin bars, pumpkin chocolate chip cookies, etc. So I found a way to satisfy that craving without all the sugar and fat. World please welcome… the Chocolate Pumpkin Protein Shake! So simple, so delicious.
All you need:
1 scoop chocolate protein powder
1/2 frozen banana
1 tsp cocoa powder
3 tbsp pumpkin puree
milk or almond milk(amount depends on how thick you want your shake)
Instructions: put it all in a blender and BLEND baby!
Short post today, but I hope you try it cause I had it this morning and YUM.
Have you noticed that toast is getting a lot of hype right now? Everybody’s about that avo-toast life! Toast is awesome because it’s so easy. And being a mom, you sometimes forget to feed yourself because you’re so focused on the little one(s). So, easy and fast is the way to go! And tbh, I saw some really weird food combos when scrolling through Pinterest. I like to keep my toast a little more basic. And for those fed up with the avocado craze, you’ll enjoy this post because there’s not an avocado in sight! I decided to give you my favorite sweet toast ideas. Cause, let’s be honest, those of us with a massive sweet-tooth, we start feeding our sweet palette early!
So, here are my four favorite sweet toasts!
*Note: all these are made with Oroweat Whole Wheat bread.
- Natural peanut butter topped with chopped walnuts and semi-sweet chocolate chips.
Peanut Butter is a great source of protein, while walnuts are a great source of natural anti-inflammatory omega-3’s and both walnuts and semi-sweet chocolate are rich in antioxidants.
2. Natural peanut butter topped with sliced banana and chia seeds.
Bananas are full of vitamins and minerals, such as potassium, calcium and iron. And chia seeds are extremely good for you and contain omega-3’s. They are nutrient dense and are a naturally energy-boosting superfood.
3. Reduced fat cream cheese topped with blueberries and drizzled with honey.
Cream cheese is delicious and good for you in moderation. Blueberries are amazing and have many benefits. They’re full of age-fighting antioxidants, they support digestion, and they fuel your brain. Honey not only adds sweetness, but is a natural energy-booster and promotes healthy weight management.
4. Almond butter topped with apple slices and sprinkled with cinnamon.
Almond butter is a heart healthy food because of its fiber and healthy fat content. Apples are full of antioxidants and dietary fiber. Apples also are extremely filling and are a natural source of energy. Cinnamon is a natural anti-inflammatory and promotes a healthy heart and brain.
There you go! Try these toasts and get a good boost of nutrition in the morning!
About a month ago I made the decision to quit sugar for 30 days. I was just so sick of losing control over my sugar cravings. I was working out every day, but still I felt like I wasn’t really feeling any better about myself or improving my health. I was tired of giving in and binging on treats and then finding reasons to justify it. After I would eat a bowl of ice cream and found myself wanting more, I would have this mentality of, “Oh, well, I already screwed up today so I might as well embrace it.” And then I would dish myself up my second (huge) bowl of ice cream.
I was feeling pretty crappy about myself, to be honest. I just felt like I could be doing so much better. And how can I possibly preach about living a healthy lifestyle on my blog and yet let myself fall into this extremely unhealthy cycle? So I made myself a plan. I got a little piece of paper, made a little grid with 30 numbered squares, and put it on my fridge. And each morning, if I was able to go without sweets the day before, I would cross off a box. 30 days later, every box was checked off. And I should probably tell you that I didn’t limit myself completely. I allowed myself two “sweets,” halo-top ice cream and dark chocolate chips. Honestly, I just needed something sweet after dinner.
So, after 30 days without sweets, this is what happened to my body.
I had more energy.
Once I became a mother, energy has become this allusive thing that I can’t seem to grasp. I feel like that totally random kid from the third Harry Potter movie: “It’s like trying to catch smoke. It’s like trying to catch smoke with my bare hands…” Cue the dramatic music and dark clouds. Turns out that it’s almost impossible to have energy when you barely sleep. And I have struggled for the past 7 months with getting enough sleep, so all day I would be dragging my feet. But for the past 30 days, I found myself with so much more energy. I would be able to get up in the morning with Jack and immediately start my day. I found myself wanting to do more every day. I would take my dog on long walks and I was able to get so much more done around the house. I actually found myself wanting to play and entertain my son. Honestly, with so much less sugar in my diet, I felt better than I have in over a year.
My workouts got easier.
Ok, this is a lie. My workouts didn’t get easier. They actually stayed the same. But I got stronger. My workouts just seemed easier. With the increased energy, I was able to really get so much more out of my workouts. I was no longer just trying to get through a workout. I started challenging myself and my strength. Exercise started to be much more effective when I had a better diet.
I felt good about myself.
Whew, this one is hefty. Like most women, I struggle with despicably low self-esteem. And when you add a postpartum body to the equation, and you get 7 months of agonizingly little self-confidence. And though I still had moments of doubt, I finally felt a little bit better about myself. I started to notice positive changes to my body. I started to appreciate not only what I looked like, but what I could do. I finally felt like my goals were possible and that was extremely freeing.
I stopped craving sweets.
I’ve heard that it takes 21 days to kick a bad habit or to create a good one. And I don’t know how true that is, but I can definitely say that after you quit sugar for even a few days, you start to crave it less. I’m not saying that I didn’t ever want sweets. There were moments. Like, when my sweet mother-in-law sent us a Halloween care package with a huge bag of Kit-Kats in it. Oh, I wanted to eat that whole bag. But I found my resolve was stronger than my desire. I let my husband eat them all, promising myself I would get myself some Kit-Kats once the 30 days were up. So, even when I found myself wanting sugar, it was over within moments. Whereas before, when I wanted sugar, I couldn’t stop thinking about it until I satisfied that craving. Cravings can be really powerful so it was nice to learn that I can be even more so.
When I finished the 30 days, I was so proud of myself. So, this last weekend I let myself as many sweets as I wanted… and guess what happened? I was tired, sluggish, and disappointed in myself. So what now? How do I find that middle ground? I don’t believe in completely depriving ourselves of things, because that eventually leads to us binging. But if I don’t restrict myself at all, I can’t seem to control myself. So, while I wish I could say I have a solution to this problem, I don’t. Wouldn’t it be nice if we were all just really good at moderation? Though I still haven’t nailed it, these last 30 days has proved pretty game-changing. Now that I’ve experienced the benefits of life without excessive sugar consumption, I’m going to do whatever I can to feel that way all the time without depriving myself completely of what I love.
I hope this inspires you to give this a try. I promise it will benefit you greatly. And if you try it and you find that your quality of life hasn’t improved at all, you can hold me responsible and I’ll make you brownies.
When you first get pregnant, or start the adoption process, or even when you start consider parenthood, it can be so overwhelming thinking about all that you will need. I remember scrolling through Pinterest at all the “what you need for baby” infographics and lists and just being so amazed by how much you need. So. Much. Stuff. And to be honest, half of it is probably unnecessary. I remember also being so overwhelmed by the different brands and products of each thing I needed. Like, I had no idea how many different types of bottles there were. Or baby baths. Or swaddles. And when you think you got the best of the best, or what you think will be perfect for your situation, your baby decides to throw your expectations for a loop and you have to adapt.
I’ve had a few friends ask me for some recommendations on baby products that I used/loved, and also on what I didn’t use/love. So I thought I’d make a blog post out of it in case some of you readers are on the road to parenthood, or know someone who is and need a few ideas for baby shower gifts. But also, keep in mind that some of these things won’t work for every baby. As I said before, you don’t always get the baby you planned for. For me, I had to adjust and buy some things I didn’t think I needed because my baby dealt with reflux and was constantly moving.
But without further ado, here are some of my favorite products:
Why it’s great: The Mamaroo is amazing. It’s a little spendy, but we were lucky enough to get one second hand and Jack loved it. It’s a baby swing that has 5 different motions and sounds, and kind of looks like a little baby spaceship. This was great for Jack because for a long time, he couldn’t sleep on his back because his reflux was so bad, so he actually slept in his Mamaroo because of the incline.
Find it here.
These were so helpful for us because Jack was such a wiggly baby and he just undid every other swaddle we used on him. The Swaddleme has velcro that helps secure your baby and helps the swaddle stay on. I would highly recommend these if you have a busy baby.
Find them here.
LOTS of binkies
So this is just a reminder to get plenty of binkies. Because they are allusive AF. Those little things get lost so easily, and you do not want to find yourself in a situation where you don’t have one. I try and keep one in almost every room of the house (and in the diaper bag).
Jack’s favorites are soothies.
This was the best baby bath ever. It fits right in your sink, and isn’t bulky so it’s easy to store. I just hang it on the wall in the bathroom.
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This is a great bassinet. It has an adjustable height, and it swivels so you don’t have to move to get your baby out in the middle of the night. It’s also great for C-Section mamas who have a longer recovery.
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Onsies with mitten cuffs
I wish I knew this before Jack. He was always scratching his cute little face and it made me super sad. Some onsies come with little mitten cuffs you can fold over your babies hands to keep them from scratching. I found this easier than cutting their nails… that scared me too much.
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I wish I bought more of this for his newborn stage. After birth, baby’s skin get so dry!
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I chose jogger over stroller for the versatility. I love how smooth a ride my jogger is. And with a simple adapter, I was able to attach the carseat as well. It’s great for long walks and running (if that’s your thing).
This is the jogger I got. It’s awesome.
Johnson’s sleepy time baby bath kit
This stuff rocks. It’s proven to help calm your baby and get him/her ready for bed. Also, and most importantly, it smells incredible.
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Although I had the Mamaroo, I needed a more portable bouncer that I could take on trips or even just take up to the bathroom to put him in so I could shower. You can get a good one for cheap that still gets the job done.
This is the one I bought and we love it.
You definitely don’t need this right away. This is for when your baby is at least 4 months old. Jack loves this jumper. It’s so useful when you need a break. Just plop your baby in there and let him play while you rest on the couch or do the dishes. And it’s also great for your baby’s motor skill development and their leg strength.
This is the one I bought.
I love our monitor. I knew I wanted one with video because as a first time mom, I want to be able to see and hear my baby at all times. This one is pretty decently priced and gives you a pretty clear image. It also allows you to move the camera remotely and talk to your baby from your screen. I also love that it tells you the temperature of the room as well, which is important when your baby can’t use blankets in their bed.
This is the one we have.
Fawn Design diaper bag
These may be spendy, but they are super trendy so it doesn’t even feel like a diaper bag. There are lots of pockets and the material is easy to clean.
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Ok, now that I’ve given you a long list of things I love, here is a shorter list of things I did not like or did not use. No, these may work for you… they just didn’t for me.
- Baby wipe warmer. I barely used this. It’s just really unnecessary. And because I barely used it, the wipes all dried up so they were useless. A cold wipe is not gonna make your baby mad. They’ll be fine.
- Bulky portable changing pad. Honestly, you don’t want to have to carry around more than you have to. And this thing can really eat up space in your diaper bag. I found that a thin blanket even does the trick if you have to change a diaper away from home.
- Blooming Baby Bath. This was not my best purchase. I bought it cause it was just so darn cute, but it really doesn’t function well for a newborn. The structure is not sturdy so I had to keep holding Jack up while bathing him. Your baby will just kind of sink into it. It may work for an older baby with better lumbar strength, but at that point, they can probably just go in the tub anyways.
- Huggies Diapers. This one might be strange but for some reason, these diapers leaked all the time. Maybe they didn’t fit right, I’m not sure. But Pampers are so much better and rarely ever leak.
Well that’s all folks! I hope you find this helpful! And if you have some good recommendations, add them in the comments!